OK way too much news. Now onto what I do best. Jabber! What I want to share was inspired by a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) support class I attended. Will was too busy studying for his Radiology License Exam, so I went alone. I was interested to see if I could glean some tips on "speeding up" his continued recovery. However, most of the topic matter was centered on organizing the piles of medical bills that come up in the early or chronic periods of recovery- ie, when you're visiting multiple doctors for rehab a week. We are slowly putting all our bills to rest. It was just a few months ago I took our insurance company off my "free favorite callers list" (the past two years I spoke with insurance agents a few hours a week). So even though I did not glean information about on how to speed things up for Will, I walked away with something much better...
At the TBI meeting their were individuals and their caregivers, with a variety of brain injuries. There was one other who had a stroke, and the others had been involved in some car, horse or falling accidents. Just like us, they had to deal with something very unexpected. Loss of career, loss of independence, and loss of ability. For the caregivers- it was loss of income, loss of "the husband they married" or loss of "the child the knew," etc... Loss is the key word. It seems to me that these types of injuries are more about loss than it they are about dealing with change. Can you imagine- being an aspiring doctor, lawyer, dentist, teacher, etc... one day and then your dream/career being gone the next. Now in place of those dreams you need someone to help you walk or remember to check your messages. More than confusion caused by the injury, I could see the individuals at the meeting felt angry, sad, and even panicked. My heart went out to them. Most of them were in situations far more difficult than Will and I.
As I left the meeting, however, in the place of sorrow, I felt a greater love. Where would we be without each other. I can't imagine Will getting near as far as he has without his parents and siblings. I can't imagine us getting near as far without my family and his family. I love them more than ever. And even though there are times when we are besides ourselves with grief and hurt one another, our faith and love brings us back. More than ever I believe that Will can be healed. Without family we are badly handicapped, and with them we can do anything. Just watch and see....
Summer